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Tips to how to talk to anyone specially for strangers

Posted on 20. May, 2009 by admin in Tips & Tricks

In this blog post I will try to share 5 tips on how to talk to anyone. If we observe the pattern closely, most of the successful person have been good talkers.

Starting a conversation :

Ever wondered why ? When you meet a person and all you could say to him/her was a simple “hi”. How to take a conversation beyond that point can make all the difference. It requires one of the person involved to initiate the conversation. Most of the time, none of them initiate any conversation and just pass by. The best part of starting a conversation is you don’t need a reason to do it. You can just stop by and even comment on that person’s dress to start a conversation. Once the conversation starts, rest will automatically flow in and fall in place.

The point that I wanted to mention here is, don’t expect the other person to start a conversation. Do it yourself, and the next time you meet that person he/she will be the one to start it.

Make them feel like you knew them forever :

If you have observed some people, when they talk you feel as if you knew them forever. They come close to you very soon, and you find much comfortable talking with them. The reason is because, they talk that way. If you can be one, you can make lots of new friends and even strike many successful business deals. It all starts with your body language, don’t feel defensive when you meet a person for the first time. Feel relaxed, observe the way he talks to his friends.

If he is already in a conversation and you were just watching the proceeding of the conversation, interrupt the conversation by expressing your point of view. Try not to comment against that person, support him/her with your point of view. This will install immediate trust for you in there mind. The person will then add your point and try to continue the conversation and expecting you to support him/her more. Once that conversation is over, you can either greet each or conclude the same conversation in such a way that he/she is satisfied.

Avoid sounding like a jerk :

Jerk is sarcastic, mean, unforgiving and never misses an opportunity to make a cutting remark. People don’t like jerk’s as they can be sometimes too straight forward. Don’t be cursing a person always, be good and talk about there positive aspects. If you talk bad about a person to him/her, she will think he talks the same to others about me. If you have a comment or have to make a remark, keep it with yourself. Not all comments are liked and not all situations needs a comment.

Mind your phone manners :

Having a control over phone manners is extremely important. A conversation on phone doesn’t mean you can talk what you want to. On a phone it becomes more important to talk carefully, because a person can’t see your body language. A simple joke can be misunderstood as a sarcastic comment.

Don’t carry the phone conversation for too long, Once a person gets used to talk to you phone he/she will prefer to talk to you on phone. The reason for this is, they will feel more comfortable talking to you on phone than in real life. Nothing beats a face to face conversation.

Make them feel they are special to you :

Every person is different , they think and converse differently. It is important to understand people as individuals and converse according to them. Having a pesonilized touch in your conversation will make them feel special individually in the group. This feeling is important to them, because it makes them understand there importance in the group.

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