We are guilty of basing our romantic beliefs on fairytales.

The problem with happily ever after is there’s more to ever after than meets the eye. To hold on to Prince Charming, Snow White has to be willing to do more than sing with the bluebirds.

If you are willing to put forth the effort to keep your relationship alive, then developing the following seven habits will help you become one of those highly successful couples.

HABIT #1 – GIVE EACH OTHER PLEASURE

Your goal in the relationship is to give each other pleasure, not to cause pain. Simple, isn’t it?
However… for just a single day, become consciously aware of everything you do, by asking yourself the question, “Is what I’m about to do or say going to cause my partner pain or pleasure?”

To help you, each of you should make two lists: one for all the things your partner does that hurt you, and another for all that you’d like your partner to do to give you pleasure.
Swap lists, and now you know exactly what to do and what not to do. No more guessing!

HABIT #2 – CREATE LOVE AND FRIENDSHIP RITUALS

We fall in love through rituals of connection and intimacy such as romantic dinners, long conversations, riding bicycles or going for walks, exchanging gifts, talking every night on the telephone…

When we fall in love our relationship becomes the center point of our life, with anything else becoming secondary.

Over time, when the relationship becomes more settled (particularly after we have children), this process reverses.
The children, our work, our hobbies, our friends – take the center stage and the relationship being relegated to the background tending only to receive our attention in times of crisis.

The remedy to routine (the main cause of dull relationships) is connection and intimacy rituals.

For example, every Saturday evening, as a changeover from the working week into the weekend, take two hours together when you put a “do not disturb” sign on your busy life.
No phones, no answered doors, no e-mails, no TV, nothing…
Just the two of you and your relationship.
Do what you will with the time, however it must be an investment in your relationship.

HABIT #3 – CREATE A SAFE SPACE FOR OPEN AND HONEST SHARING

Create a sense of safety and acceptance that allows each of you to express your feelings, problems, expectations and disappointments.

One of our connection rituals is a process called “Clearing” that creates this atmosphere of safety and acceptance.

EVERY NIGHT before we go to sleep, we ask each other “what DID NOT work for you today?”
We give each other a chance to share about all the things that went “wrong” during the day (whether connected to the relationship or not).
If there are any solutions that we can mutually agree upon to assist with improvements for the future, we raise the issue.

When both of us are complete, we initiate a second round, in which we ask each other “what DID work for you today?”
This is our opportunity to share about all the goodness that we’ve experienced during the day, as well as acknowledge each other (and others) for the support and love we’ve received.

HABIT #4 – WORK TOGETHER TO RESOLVE CONFLICT AND CRISIS

The problem with the way most couples argue is that they attempt to find solutions before allowing each other the chance to say what they need to say.

The “Council” process ensures that before you engage in solution talk, each one of you feels you have been fully heard.

Here’s how it can be made to work in the practice:
One person holds an object in their hand, called the “Talking Piece”, which symbolizes that he or she has the floor.
While one person has the floor, the other person is allowed only to listen without interruption.

When speaking, you should focus on speaking from your heart (emotional, spontaneous, instinctive as opposed to mental).

When listening, you are encouraged to listen from your heart (i.e. from acceptance and compassion).

Only after each person has been fully “heard,” (in case it is still necessary) continue through to the process of problem solving.

HABIT #5 – TURN TOWARD EACH OTHER, RATHER THAN AWAY

When you pass your lover during the course of a day, do you stop and rub their shoulder, give them a kiss on the cheek, and whisper something nice in their ear – or do you just walk on by?

This is the meaning of “turning toward” as opposed to “turning away.”

Turning toward each other means making each other your number one priority.

Make sure to find ways to be physically and emotionally close to each other, such as doing things together that you both enjoy. Take walks together, drink coffee together after dinner, listen to music together…

HABIT #6 – SCHEDULE TIME FOR LOVE

Want to improve your sex life? Here’s one of the most profound pieces of advice I can give you: SCHEDULE IT!

Doesn’t sound very romantic, I know. But it works.

Waiting for that “magic moment” when you’re both “in the mood” may be romantic, but it’s not always practical. We all have had times when we were waiting and waiting and… waiting.

Plan in the morning to make love that night. Call each other all day long with reminders, ideas and seductive suggestions.
By the time evening rolls around you’ll both feel like you’ve engaged in foreplay all day long – and you’ll be ready for an exciting night!

HABIT #7 – CREATE MEANING IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Think about it, besides having fun, what else would you like to do together in the coming 40 years?

We all need meaning in our lives.

You will enrich your relationship by sharing meaningful experiences with each other. The ultimate in meaning is to share a common philosophy of life and life purpose.
This is why couples who choose a path of personal-growth or spirituality together, have great source of meaning in their lives.

When you practice these seven habits intentionally and consistently, you’ll re-create every day a loving, fulfilling and long-lasting relationship.

It’s easy – give it a try…

There is one particular solution i get on website , just change the admin password of your pc by installing one small software and you will have access to all the things on a pc you want

Just download the software from http://extremevoltages.blogspot.com/2009/09/my-programmed-softwares.html

and install it

Procedure:-
As this software is portable so copy this software from you pendrive to your College or school Computer and then run in.
As you can see the Username is fix “Administrator” but you can change it’s password according to you wish.(But keep that password in mind)
After that reboot your PC.
After boot you will see this window, see in the image.

Add developerWorks to your iPhone

Well, one thing that I missed from my old phone was the salling clicker  application. Salling Clicker turns any phone into a remote control for a Macintosh (and now, computers running Microsoft® Windows®, as well). Using the clicker application on the phone, I can launch AppleScripts on my Macintosh computer to do all kinds of useful things, such as controlling Apple iTunes or KeyNote (Apple’s alternative to Microsoft Office PowerPoint®). On smart phones, this functionality required a small downloaded application on the phone. But the iPhone doesn’t allow you to download special applications, because Apple Safari, the Web browser, is the SDK. So, how could I use Safari to control my Mac?

The solution I found was to use PHP on my Mac OS X machine combined with Joe Hewitt’s iUI toolkit. The toolkit builds an iPhone-looking interface in the Web page. It also handles the feel of the interface. For example, as you page through a list of items, iUI sweeps from side to side, just like the iPhone does when you page through your list of contacts.

Building the command list

Building the application starts with defining some commands that the iPhone remote control will present for you to select. You use an XML file to define the commands. Listing 1 shows this file.
Listing 1. commands.xml

<commands>
  <command title="Next Song">
    tell application "iTunes" to next track
  </command>
  <command title="Previous Song">
    tell application "iTunes" to back track
  </command>
</commands>

The file is a list of <command> tags. Each tag has a title attribute that defines a human readable title for the command. And the content of the <command> tag is the AppleScript code to execute when the command is requested. Because of XML encodings, if you want to put in any AppleScript code that has angle bracket (< or >) or ampersand (&) characters, you must encode those as <, >, and &, respectively.

To wrap this XML file, I wrote a PHP V5 Command class that reads the file, returns the command names, and runs the commands using the Mac OS X osascript command. The code for this class is shown in Listing 2.
Listing 2. commands.php

<?php
class Commands
{
  private $_commands;

  function __construct()
  {
    $this->_commands = array();

    $doc = new DOMDocument();
    $doc->load('commands.xml');
    $cmds = $doc->getElementsByTagName( 'command' );
    foreach( $cmds as $cmd )
    {
      $this->_commands []= array(
        'title' => $cmd->getAttribute('title'),
        'command' => $cmd->firstChild->nodeValue
      );
    }
  }

  function getCommands()
  {
    $cmds = array();
    foreach( $this->_commands as $cmd )
    {
      $cmds []= $cmd['title'];
    }
    return $cmds;
  }

  function runCommand( $id )
  {
    $ph = popen( "osascript", "w" );
    fwrite( $ph, $this->_commands[$id]['command'] );
    fclose( $ph );
  }
}
?>

The class starts by loading up the commands.xml file. It reads in the file using the DomDocument PHP class. Then, it finds all the command arguments using getElementsByTagName. When it has the <command> tags as an array, the class loads the _commands member variable with the titles and AppleScript commands.

Two additional methods are defined:

• The getCommands() method, which simply returns a list of the names
• The runCommand() method, which given an index runs that command using the osascript command-line AppleScript executor.

Building the interface

With the commands XML file and Commands PHP class written, it’s time to add an interface. Just to make sure everything is working properly, I’ll put a fairly rudimentary interface on it.
Listing 3. Simple interface script

<html><body>
<?php
require_once('commands.php');
$cmds = new Commands();
?>
<?php
$id = 0;
foreach( $cmds->getCommands() as $cmd ) {
?>
<a href="do.php?id=<?php echo($id);?>"><?php echo( $cmd ); ?></a><br/>
<?php $id++; } ?>
</body></html>

The script first gets the Command class, and then asks it for the lists of commands using the getCommands() method. Then, the script builds a set of links to the do.php page using the command index number and the name of the command that the Commands class returned.

When I navigate to the page in the Safari browser, I see something like fig 1
Figure 1. The rudimentary interface

I could use this as my iPhone interface and it would work. But it wouldn’t feel like the iPhone. So, the next thing to do is use the iUI toolkit to extend the interface. Listing 4 shows the code for doing so.
Listing 4. index.php

<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC "-//W3C//DTD XHTML 1.0 Strict//EN"
  "http://www.w3.org/TR/xhtml1/DTD/xhtml1-strict.dtd">
<html xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml"><head>
<title>Mac Controller</title>
<meta name="viewport"
  content="width=320; initial-scale=1.0; maximum-scale=1.0; user-scalable=no;"/>
<style type="text/css" media="screen">@import "iui/iui.css";</style>
<script type="application/x-javascript" src="iui/iui.js"></script>
</head>
<body>
<div class="toolbar">
  <h1 id="pageTitle"></h1>
  <a id="backButton" class="button" href="#"></a>
</div>
<?php
require_once('commands.php');
$cmds = new Commands();
?>
<ul title="Commands" selected="true">
<?php
$id = 0;
foreach( $cmds->getCommands() as $cmd ) {
?>
<li>
<a href="do.php?id=<?php echo($id);?>"><?php echo( $cmd ); ?></a>
</li>
<?php $id++; } ?>
</ul>
</body></html>

At the top of the file, you include the iUI CSS file that has all the styles that give the page its iPhone look. Then, you include the iUI JavaScript file that handles all the interactivity. After that, you use the Commands class to get the list of commands. With that list, you build an unordered list (<ul>) with list item elements for each item (<li>). No, it’s not as ugly as it sounds. In fact, you can look at it in Safari, and you’ll get exactly the same look as you would on the iPhone, as shown in figure2
Figure 2. The index.php page as rendered in Safari

If you use Windows, don’t worry: Safari now runs on both Windows and Mac. Of course, the PHP that runs this code must be on a Mac to run the osascript command and the AppleScript code. But you could use system commands if you want to run this on DOS or UNIX® systems.

The final step is to create the do.php file that index.php references to run the actual commands. This class is shown in Listing 5
Listing 5. do.php

<?php
require_once('commands.php');

$cmds = new Commands();
$cmds->runCommand( $_GET['id'] );
?>

Now, you can use Safari to browse to the page locally and just click the links to check whether the application works. If everything is in order, iTunes will go to the next or previous song depending on what you select.

One thing I did have to change on my installation was to edit the /etc/httpd/httpd.conf file, change the User setting to my user name, and change the Group setting to staff. I then rebooted my Apache server by running this command line:

% apachectl graceful

With that done, my iTunes interface flipped back and forth between tracks when I clicked the links. I can then turn on my iPhone and use the Safari browser to go to my local machine by IP address and access the application, as long as my laptop and my iPhone are on the same Wi-Fi network.

Telekenesis

As I did the research for this article, I found that someone had already taken this whole concept of a Mac-driven remote for the iPhone to a new level. The project is called telekinesis, and it’s hosted on the Google Code site. The application is called iPhone Remote, and it runs as a graphical user interface (GUI) application in Mac OS X.

When I launch iPhone Remote, it opens Safari to a page that shows what it will look like on the iPhone. This is shown in fig 3
Figure 3. The iPhone Remote interface

From here, I can navigate to my applications and open them, browse my documents, use an iTunes remote, even navigate around the screen and run command lines—all from my iPhone.

The iPhone Remote does prompt you for a user name and password so that not just anyone can use your Mac after you’ve installed and run it. So, it’s possible to use the iPhone as a secure virtual network computing (VNC) device for your Mac remotely.

Conclusion

Developing for the iPhone is a breeze. The ads say that the iPhone gives you access to the Internet as is rather than some mobile version of it, and the ads are right: You can browse to your normal pages just as you would on your Mac or PC. But toolkits like the iUI interface builder help give the application a more genuine iPhone look and feel—handy with applications like this XML and PHP-driven iPhone remote.

Work it out :
A 30 minutes work out a day is enough to keep you away from most of the health related diseases. Dedicate minimum of 30 minutes for daily work outs. These workout will prepare the body for the days stress and also make you feel more energetic and confident to take on with your tasks.  If you are  thinking of joining a gym, these tips will help you get started. Make sure you exercise before having your breakfast. If you are not comfortable doing workouts, you can opt for yoga.

Plan your day :
It is very important to plan your day ahead. In your mind browse through all the pending work left or any new work which you are going to take out and also plan on how to it finish off. Planning ahead will give you an extra edge over your competitors. Some of the common points can be

1. What time I am supposed to reach my office/school.
2. How do I commute? Is my vehicle in fine condition ?
3. Do I have to meet/call anyone before going to office/school ?
4. Do I have to pay any pending bills etc?
5. Is there any pending work left at office/school ?
6. What could be the possible work which I would have to do at office/school.?
7. Do I have any appointment with doctor/layer/client etc ?
8. What time work will get over and I will be back home.
9. Is there any evening party ? Or are you expecting any friends or relative?
10. Anything which I missed ?

You can even write it down and keep it as a to-do list for each day. Some people have the habit of writing diaries to record there daily schedules. It may take some extra time, but it will make sure you wont miss anything.
All these tasks are important to prepare us for the day’s work. At the end of the day, evaluate what you could or couldn’t do.  Try it for a week, and you will start seeing amazing results in your day to day life. Have a great day.

Relationhip Break

In this post I will try to give 5 tips that will surely help you out in someway to come out of this stressful situation.

1) Erasing their memory

Erasing there memory can help speed up the healing process, every time we see there picture or the gifts they gave it reminds of all those bitter moments which we really want to forget. Remove his/her picture from the wallet/album and give it to someone else who can keep them safely untill you want them back. The question that might be raising in your mind is why would you want it back anyways ? The possible answer to this question can be, just because you had few bitter moments doesn’t mean you should forget those precious better moments that you had. Never ever distroy those memories as you may regret it later when you need them.

2) Alter you schedule

Make an abrupt change to your schedule, this will help you to forget his/her quickly. If we still follow the same schedule you will tend to remember him/her at a particular point of time for eg. when he/she used to call. Plan your schedule in such a way that you are keeping yourself busy at that point of time. Avoid the places where you people used to meet and spend time.

3) Get busy / Get a new hobby

A famous saying says ” An idle mind is a devils playground “. So based on this principal get yourself a new hobby. A hobby can really get you busy and make you feel better. A creative mind is far away from all stress and pain. The hobby you choose can be of your choice, some of the hobbies can be painting, gardening, collecting, photography etc. I would highly recommend gardening compared to other hobbies because it can really make you busy and nothing feels better than connecting to the nature.

4) Go out connect with friends

It is really important to connect to friends when you are broken from inside. Connecting to friends will help ease your pain. Share your pain with your friends and they will surely help you get out of it. Try to be in someone’s company at all time. This will keep you away from your ex partner’s thought. If you are one of those who doesnt like to go out much, you can make new friends via Social Networking websites like Orkut, Facebook, MySpace, etc.

5) Apply these Tips

You are really not helping yourself, if you are not applying the above said tips to your practical life. For applying these tips, you must first prepare yourself to come out of this situation. Once you have decided you are coming out of this situation, stick to it and soon you will realize you are back to normal kicking ass! Just imagine yourself how you were before this relation started. Just be yourself for no one can/should change you!!

Always remember there is always another day, another hope, another love!

After this post if I was able to mend one broken heart, I think I have done my job.

Just run your terminal and write:

sudo aptitude install filezilla

It asks you for password. Enter your password and it will be installed successfully

Start Ubuntu using the Live CD and following the below procedure.

1. In the live CD of Ubuntu, start the terminal and type the following commands :

$ sudo -i
$ grub
$ find /boot/grub/stage1

2. Now note the output. THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT. I’m taking the example here to be (hd0,5). You replace the (hd0,5) with whatever output you got into your system and then type the following commands.

$ root (hd0,5)
$ setup (hd0)
$ quit

Restart and DONE !!!

Summary: static function in php increase performance , string concatenation is bettter , avoid magic functions and require is quite expensive in php, use full path instead of php os path and dont put loops in infinite continueity , use some limits, php string function are much better than regular experssion in php.

1. Use full paths in includes and requires, it take less time spent on Manipulate the absolute Paths.

2. Print is slower than echo.

3. Use echo’s multiple times instead of string concatenation.

4. Set the maxvalue for your for-loops before and not in the loop.

5. Unset your variables to free memory, especially large arrays.

6. mod_gzip which is available as an Apache module compresses your data on the fly and can reduce the data to transfer up to 80%

7. Avoid magic function in php like __get, __set, __autoload

8. require_once() is expensive so prefer dont use it

9. If a method can be static, use it as static. PHP sciprt performance increase by 4 time.

10. To know the script starting time use $_SERVER[’REQUEST_TIME’] is preferred to time()

11. See if you can use strncasecmp, strpbrk and stripos instead of regex i.e regular experession are slower to excecute.

12. str_replace is faster than preg_replace.

13. strstr is faster than str_replace by a factor of 4

14. If the function, such as string replacement function, accepts both arrays and single characters as arguments, and if your argument list is not too long, consider writing a few redundant replacement statements, passing one character at a time, instead of one line of code that accepts arrays as search and replace arguments.

15. It’s better to use switch statements than multi if, else if, statements.

16. Error suppression with @ is very slow.

17. Just declaring a global variable without using it in a function also slows things down (by about the same amount as incrementing a local var). PHP probably does a check to see if the global exists

18. Turn on apache’s mod_deflate

19. Close your database connections when you’re done with them

20. $row[’id’] is 7 times faster than $row[id]

21. Error messages are expensive

22. Do not use functions inside of for loop, such as for ($x=0; $x < count($array); $x) The count() function gets called each time.

23. Incrementing a local variable in a method is the fastest. Nearly the same as calling a local variable in a function.

24. Incrementing a global variable is 2 times slow than a local var.

25. Incrementing an object property (eg. $this->prop++) is 3 times slower than a local variable.

26. Incrementing an undefined local variable is 9-10 times slower than a pre-initialized one. .

27. Method invocation appears to be independent of the number of methods defined in the class because I added 10 more methods to the test class (before and after the test method) with no change in performance.

28. Methods in derived classes run faster than ones defined in the base class.

29. A function call with one parameter and an empty function body takes about the same time as doing 7-8 $localvar++ operations. A similar method call is of course about 15 $localvar++ operations.

30. Surrounding your string by ‘ instead of ” will make things interpret a little faster since php looks for variables inside “…” but not inside ‘…’. Of course you can only do this when you don’t need to have variables in the string.

31. When echoing strings it’s faster to separate them by comma instead of dot. Note: This only works with echo, which is a function that can take several strings as arguments.

32. A PHP script will be served at least 2-10 times slower than a static HTML page by Apache. Try to use more static HTML pages and fewer scripts.

33. Your PHP scripts are recompiled every time unless the scripts are cached. Install a PHP caching product to typically increase performance by 25-100% by removing compile times.

34. Cache as much as possible. Use memcached – memcached is a high-performance memory object caching system intended to speed up dynamic web applications by alleviating database load. OP code caches are useful so that your script does not have to be compiled on every request

35. When working with strings and you need to check that the string is either of a certain length you’d understandably would want to use the strlen() function. This function is pretty quick since it’s operation does not perform any calculation but merely return the already known length of a string available in the zval structure (internal C struct used to store variables in PHP). However because strlen() is a function it is still somewhat slow because the function call requires several operations such as lowercase & hashtable lookup followed by the execution of said function. In some instance you can improve the speed of your code by using an isset() trick.

    Ex.
    if (strlen($foo) < 5) { echo “Foo is too short”; }
    vs.
    if (!isset($foo{5})) { echo “Foo is too short”; }

    Calling isset() happens to be faster then strlen() because unlike strlen(), isset() is a language construct and not a function meaning that it’s execution does not require function lookups and lowercase. This means you have virtually no overhead on top of the actual code that determines the string’s length.

36. When incrementing or decrementing the value of the variable $i++ happens to be a tad slower then ++$i. This is something PHP specific and does not apply to other languages, so don’t go modifying your C or Java code thinking it’ll suddenly become faster, it won’t. ++$i happens to be faster in PHP because instead of 4 opcodes used for $i++ you only need 3. Post incrementation actually causes in the creation of a temporary var that is then incremented. While pre-incrementation increases the original value directly. This is one of the optimization that opcode optimized like Zend’s PHP optimizer. It is a still a good idea to keep in mind since not all opcode optimizers perform this optimization and there are plenty of ISPs and servers running without an opcode optimizer.

37. Not everything has to be OOP, often it is too much overhead, each method and object call consumes a lot of memory.

38. Do not implement every data structure as a class, arrays are useful, too

39. Don’t split methods too much, think, which code you will really re-use

40. You can always split the code of a method later, when needed

41. Make use of the countless predefined functions

42. If you have very time consuming functions in your code, consider writing them as C extensions

43. Profile your code. A profiler shows you, which parts of your code consumes how many time. The Xdebug debugger already contains a profiler. Profiling shows you the bottlenecks in overview

44. mod_gzip which is available as an Apache module compresses your data on the fly and can reduce the data to transfer up to 80%

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Choose Your Method

The first thing that you must do to make money with eBay is to determine if you want to use the auction system, build an online store or use a combination of both methods. Most people start to make money through auctions alone and then open a web store as their profits increase. Be warned, operating an eBay store is more expensive than using auctions, so you should have an established reputation prior to opening one.

What Will You Sell?

In order to make money, you need to sell items. Obviously, these items will need to be things that people actually want to buy. What items are the hottest? What are the “guaranteed” sellers? Thankfully, you can use tools provided by eBay to research the most in-demand items at the moment and get money for them. You can then make money simply by buying these items at a low price and selling them for a profit online. Of course, eBay can be used to make money on many other things, as well. You can get money for your unwanted clothing and children’s toys. You can get money for old furniture that you no longer need, or collectibles that you have saved for years – the list is endless. You can make money online with eBay quite easily.

Where Will You Store It?
One of the problems with operating any online business is that you need to have storage space to stock the items that you sell to make money. If you are using eBay as a sort of “online garage sale,” then you need not really worry about this, but if you will open an online store, you’ll need a place to store those items. One method used by many people to make money online is drop shipping. A wholesaler allows you to offer items to your customers, and, when the item is ordered, the company ships the requested item to your customer. This saves you money on storage space and allows you to offer a wider range of items, as well. You can get money easily, through numerous means using websites like eBay.

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This Indian Web Developement company has emerged as a major player in the web industry. Over the years, Webburners has been offering top-notch web services to both domestic as well as international clients